A personal voyage of discovery
Years ago, I found myself on a personal voyage that required me to examine and attend to the most important assets I will ever own - my mind and my mental health.
I had been drinking from the firehose of the corporate world for almost 25 years. I was discontent with my work, my marriage was failing and it seemed like no matter how hard I tried, I couldn’t realize the vision I had for my life.
I wasn’t alone, though; my male colleagues were also struggling. I witnessed the men in my life behaving in unhealthy ways in an attempt to cope with their dissatisfaction. From consuming themselves with work, to excessive alcohol and substance abuse, and conflict in their relationships, they adopted risky behaviors that frequently had terrible long-term consequences. Beyond that, it was clear they were on auto-pilot, feeling empty, and just doing what they thought they had to do. The trend was blatantly obvious and disturbing.
I could relate to their discontent, but I also had a feeling that it didn’t have to be this way. There had to be more. I sought professional help. This proved to be the most valuable investment I have ever made in myself.
Through retraining my mind and reframing my experiences, I discovered that most of what I feared was an illusion. For too long I underestimated what I was truly capable of, but now see I was my biggest limitation. This discovery radically changed my life for the better and it now permeates into every aspect of my world.
The insight that I gained from my own therapy, prompted me to seek a new career pathway, providing professional support and guidance for men whose well-being has m been drastically compromised by anxiety, depression, relationship distress, and other culprits.
A decade later, and after having thousands of clinical conversations, I recognize that regardless of upbringing, socioeconomic status, race, ethnicity, culture, or identity, men struggle with a wide range of mental health issues that are too often left unexamined and unattended.
As demands and expectations of men continue to evolve in our fast-paced contemporary life, our burden of anxiety, depression, and relationship distress continues to rise. It’s no surprise we are more desperate than ever to find practical and enduring ways to improve the quality of our lives.
My extensive clinical training, coupled with my personal experience, has given me a deep understanding of the ways men are uniquely affected by mental health issues. Working through these issues is truly a voyage - one that involves education, increased awareness, introspection, and courage.
I know how challenging this work can be and I know it can feel daunting to be at the beginning of what seems like an uphill trek. But I can personally attest that change is possible and nothing is more important than reclaiming your mental and emotional health.
The reward for this work is a life filled with potential, freedom from the strictures of emotional barriers, and the tools needed to disarm a mental health issue should it arise again.
If you’re ready to override the auto-pilot, rid yourself of chronic angst and uncertainty, and to engage in the deeply satisfying life you imagine for yourself, I hope you’ll reach out.
Before I started working with Simon, I had been fired from my job, my marriage was failing, and I struggled with substance abuse. I was a hot mess. But I finally feel like I have dug myself out of a very deep hole. I owe a great deal of that to Simon. Thank you for helping me at my lowest.
Simon G. Niblock, MA, LMFT, is a licensed marriage and family therapist in private practice in Austin, Texas, who specializes in tailored psychotherapy services for men.
Simon was born and raised free-range in New Zealand. He has lived and worked in Australia, Asia, Europe, the United Kingdom, and the United States, and migrated into the practice of clinical psychotherapy after an extensive career in the high-tech software world. He has received formal training and education in Sydney, Australia, and Austin, Texas.
His greatest lessons in life have come from the humbling yet privileged roles of being an adoring husband and a father of two amazing sons.
- Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist (Texas License #201883).
- Master of Arts (Counseling Psychology). St. Edward’s University, Austin, TX.
- Bachelor of Social Sciences (Counseling Psychology). Australian College of Applied Psychology, Sydney, Australia.
- Clinical Fellow of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT)
- Founding Member of the Texas Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (TAMFT).
- Professional Affiliate of the Society for the Psychological Study of Men and Masculinity.
- Member of the Pregnancy and Postpartum Health Alliance of Texas (PPHA).
- National Leadership Team Member for GuyTalk.co.
Simon’s approach to practical and enduring change for men through the adoption of empirically validated models of clinical therapy such as, Systems Theory, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Solution Focused Brief Therapy. Each is considered the gold standard of psychology and psychotherapy practice.
These therapeutic practices are used to address a wide range of issues that men struggle with, such as uncertainty in life and their pursuits, risky or ineffective behavior, and even conflict within interpersonal relationships. Other issues include emotional prohibition, loss or fear of loss, experiences of shame, grief and sadness, and masculine identity and personal constructs.
Simon also integrates contemporary neuroscience, gender-specific social and cultural dynamics that, when combined, offer a robust and tailored practice to address men’s emotional, relational, and behavior concerns.
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